Hexagram 6 - Conflict

Hexagram #6 - Conflict

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9/07/00
Top Line - When success over others is achieved through sheer force of authority or superior position, the victory will not last. Those who can win only by the sword are condemned to carry shields with them everywhere. Beware of hollow victories.

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1/11/99
Fifth Line - Ruling Line
In conflicts in which you are in the right, look for a just arbiter to turn the tide in your favor. This person must be strong and above reproach, so that he has both moral authority and personal clout. In such situations it furthers you to let go, and let the mediator take over. If you have satisfied your own conscience that your cause is just, chances are that you will convince others of good conscience as well. And remember, not every field is a battleground; many conflicts simply resolve themselves.

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1/11/99
Fourth Line
Winning isn't everything. In situations in life where you face a weaker opponent, winning is not always even the strategic thing, particularly if you are not sure of the rightness of your position. Remember that all conflict, no matter how much the odds favor you, carries a price. Learn to demonstrate good will when you hold the upper hand, and you will find that in the long run your position will be strengthened.

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1/11/99
Second Line
When challenging a superior force, retreat is merely a tactic, not a disgrace. In the face of insurmountable obstacles, misplaced valor - perhaps fueled by a sense of personal pride - is not only stupid, it's dangerous to those around you - your allies, your friends and your community. If an adversary with a loaded rifle has you in his gun sights, it furthers you to duck.

Bottom line

Conflict arises when a person who is convinced he or she is entitled to something meets with opposition. In such cases, the wiser choice is not to push things to the bitter end, because knocking heads only perpetuates bad will. Creative solutions which meet others halfway are more valuable and longer lasting than victories achieved through force.

Conflicts in which one party is not sincere inevitably lead to subterfuge and distortions. In such situations, those of strong character keep a clear head, protect their own integrity and look out for their own interests, even while seeking compromise. Often this means finding a fair-minded mediator who can settle matters. In these times of conflict and turmoil, new ventures and new initiatives are to be avoided.

This is a good time to examine the sincerity of your own beliefs and those around you. Seek advice or arbitration from an impartial and mature person. Consider everything carefully before making any major decisions. It may be time to compromise. Try to clarify the roles and responsibilities of those you work and live with so as to avoid conflict in the future. There are several change factors operating, which indicates a relatively unstable situation with regard to your question.

Monday January 11, 1999

Question: outcome of contacting DR about managing the implementation of the next release of the ERP package
Conflict #6 moving to 23 - Splitting Apart or moving to 64 before the end

It took DR several weeks to get back to me but we had a nice chat. Turns out the project really isn't going to happen and there really isn't an open position.

Looking at my question again the answer was acceptable. I was calling to get an update on the project (a possible opportunity for me) and was told that the project was in conflict and was falling apart. Sometimes the answers aren't as clear because I at least have a tendency to personalize things I shouldn't. The conflict and splitting apart had nothing to do with me and everything to do with the project.

Note: I ended up working for the woman about 2 months later on another assignment

Thursday September 7, 2000

Question: my emotional outlook for staying at my current position

This situation was the embodiment of deep seated conflict.

Moving to	Date
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47	9/07/00	Top Line - When success over others is achieved through sheer force of authority or superior position, the victory will not last. Those who can win only by the sword are condemned to carry shields with them everywhere. Beware of hollow victories.
23	1/11/99	Fifth Line - Ruling Line In conflicts in which you are in the right, look for a just arbiter to turn the tide in your favor. This person must be strong and above reproach, so that he has both moral authority and personal clout. In such situations it furthers you to let go, and let the mediator take over. If you have satisfied your own conscience that your cause is just, chances are that you will convince others of good conscience as well. And remember, not every field is a battleground; many conflicts simply resolve themselves.
23	1/11/99	Fourth Line Winning isn't everything. In situations in life where you face a weaker opponent, winning is not always even the strategic thing, particularly if you are not sure of the rightness of your position. Remember that all conflict, no matter how much the odds favor you, carries a price. Learn to demonstrate good will when you hold the upper hand, and you will find that in the long run your position will be strengthened.
		Third Line
23	1/11/99	Second Line When challenging a superior force, retreat is merely a tactic, not a disgrace. In the face of insurmountable obstacles, misplaced valor - perhaps fueled by a sense of personal pride - is not only stupid, it's dangerous to those around you - your allies, your friends and your community. If an adversary with a loaded rifle has you in his gun sights, it furthers you to duck.
		Bottom line